Showing posts with label Thursday Thirteen. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thursday Thirteen. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

composting

Have you checked your trash recently?  We started noticing how much ours grew when Obi-1 was born.  We already recycled nearly everything we could, which is really normal for households in northwest cities.  Thus, cloth diapers became a normal part of raising Kenobi babies.  :)  We also began separating “compost-able” items from the trash, and it’s pretty amazing how much we saved by cutting these scraps out.  We ended up putting most compost-able things with our yard waste (which is allowed here).

Last year, we started a compost bin.  Composting basically combines food scraps together (like veggie trimmings, fruit peels, egg shells, etc. with yard debris) in a sheltered, decomposing pile. The result is rich mulch. Composting is easy to start and maintain, and a surprisingly clean process. As with recycling, it’s surprising how much you save when your weekly trash collection is reduced! In a typical week, we fill our 2-gallon kitchen bin a couple times. As we get better and our summer gardens and yard need attention, that pace will increase.

Determined to get back into good habits and stop paying for bags of mulch, I found the city-promoted composting program. It was fairly inexpensive to purchase a large, locking bin for composting. We also got a smaller container that easily accommodates plate- and cutting-board scraping in the kitchen. Kept in proper containers, the compost process is free of the pests or smells. With a few minutes a week, you can manage it well and produce great organic compost to use or share!

Here, for our mutual reference (as I’m sure to lose our handy brochure!), are general things to know about composting.

1. GREEN = fruit & veggie scraps, coffee grounds, tea bags, fresh grass clippings, and fresh plant & flower clippings (items rich in nitrogen)

2. BROWN
= dried grass or plant clippings, fallen leaves, drier lint, straw, old potting soil, used paper towels, and shredded newspaper (carbon-rich items)

3. Combine items in a 1:1 to 1:2 ratio of Green : Brown items. Every time you add something, mix thoroughly with a spade, garden claw, or the little “mixing” gadget designed for your bin. It doesn’t take a lot of effort; just turn it over so the mixture stays combined.

4. The mixture should be damp throughout (like a “wrung out sponge”). If it seems too wet, add some brown items. If it seems too dry, add green items and/or wet it down with some water (rain water is great for this task). If you maintain a good ratio and moisture level, it will not get stinky.

5. Don’t use meat or dairy scraps in your bin, as they can attract rodents. (yuck)

6. Don’t put weeds or diseased plants in, as they could spread problems later.

7. Contact the department or company that handles your trash and recycling to see if they sell compost bins. Or, check craigslist.com for your area. Home stores & garden centers carry bins, too.

8. If you have a floor/bottom on your bin, it should be porous so worms can get in. Worms help compost; you can even purchase them if you want their aid. A lid that locks in place will keep unwanted pests out.

9. Keep a container for easily clearing cutting boards, plates, and leftovers. We got a specific kitchen bin because it seals (to keep out fruit flies) and stores easily. We’ve used old milk cartons or coffee cans in the past. Line your bin with a piece of newspaper or used paper towel to soak up liquids. Empty and rinse it out frequently.

10. It will take a few months to get rich, usable compost. If you keep adding and mixing, you’ll have a constant supply whenever you need it. The process will slow down in winter, and pick back up when temperatures rise. Continue to add compost materials and mix throughout all seasons.  I recently mixed a wheelbarrow full into a flower garden space.

11. Have a ready supply of brown items when you add your kitchen scraps. A bucket of leaves or dry grass clippings is easy to keep nearby as you toss out your kitchen pail.

12. Chop up items into small pieces, so they’ll decompose quicker.

13. Make a safe liquid fertilizer with finished compost: mix several handfuls of compost with a gallon of water. Let it sit a few hours, and then stir it well. The result is an organic “compost tea” that can be applied to the soil to add nutrients.

I know my grandparents used to do this, and they didn't call it "environmentalism."  They called it part of "patriotism" - to avoid waste and plant gardens - or "wisdom" - to not waste what you have.  Whatever your (or my) motivation, it's easy to enjoy the results!

Oh - and of course, check out the other fun & sometimes useful lists this Thursday!

Thursday, March 20, 2008

minivan theology

Questions.  Don't we all have them?  My boys are full of questions - some of which really make me think and search for answers.  Often, these questions come from the carseats behind me, as we drive to and from grocery stores, the gym, or other errands.  I call these "minivan theology."   Honestly, sometimes I wish I had just put on some Johnny B music!  At the end of the day, however, I'm thankful for the questions, since they move me to think, and confirm that we're building the culture of honesty and learning in our family.  

This weekend marks the celebration of Easter.  I thought it fitting to offer some of our minivan theology questions here.  I'm not going to share my answers, though maybe I will do that for a future post.  I also know that catechisms, such as found here and here, as well as books like this, are useful for parents faced with these questions.  It's said that Martin Luther wrote his shorter catechism while his son was around 3 years old - perhaps because this age is so prone to great questions!  I will also share that my answers often reflect this belief system.

However, for a moment, join me in listening to my boys' questions.  Take a breath, try to calm the clutter of information that jostles around in your mind, and really hear the heart of the questions.  Perhaps, if you're brave enough, allow yourself to ask along with them.  We have a good father, who loves us and is not afraid or weakened by our questions.  Perhaps these questions, and answers in truth, will enrich your celebration this weekend.

Blessings, 
MamaToo

Minivan Theology 101 - Questions I Hear

  1. What is justice?

  2. Is justice good?  (a.k.a. Is justice scary?)

  3. What is sin?

  4. Why do we get to choose to forgive?

  5. What is mercy?

  6. Why did God make me?

  7. Why are Li'l Joe and Cool A our neighbors?

  8. Why do people do bad things? 

  9. What is compassion?

  10. How do I forgive my brother?

  11. What is grace?

  12. Why didn't God make Larry the Cucumber real?  (a.k.a. Why didn't God make vegetables talk?  a.k.a. Why does God give us imagination?)

  13. Why did Jesus die on the cross?

These are only a few - a sampling, if you will - of the questions and conversations enjoyed in our minivan.  Feel free to share your thoughts.  Also, enjoy all of the other wonderful lists of thoughts, questions, photos, and ideas on today's Thursday Thirteen circuit!

Thursday, February 21, 2008

finding things

I'm working on a project many years old. Over the past ten years or so, I've had a couple storage drawers that held various "office" supplies. Once organized, they've long since deteriorated into "stuff drawers," and the collection has grown beyond pens and paperclips.  This week, thanks to my little dive into artistic endeavors, I decided to let go of the collection and sort the drawers. Who knew a few gallons could hold so much? My past has tumbled out in the contents. Here's a glimpse of a few (actually, thirteen) things I've found...

  1. a hackey sack. Yes, my own. Once upon a time, I was part of a first girls' soccer team in my hometown. This thing seemed neccessary for that sport. :)

  2. no less than three-dozen colored pencils. Nice ones - the kind I used for design projects in college art classes.

  3. magnetic poetry. Romantically themed, no less. Who knows when I bought that little box of words, but I do remember many rhymes and prose decorating a refrigerator - long before the current array of VeggieTales drawings.

  4. no less than 10 highlighters. Ever a note-taker, these have helped me focus my thoughts, whether in physics classes or scripture studies.

  5. floppy disks. And labels for these disks. Does anyone's computer use these anymore?

  6. ticket stubs from some wonderful dates with Mr. Kenobi. Among the treasures are memories of a B.B. King concert and Mariners' Game. Perhaps I saved them, hoping to someday start scrapbooking. I won't rule it out, but let's all admit that's a long-shot.

  7. a "year 2000" candle from our wedding, on the eve of that year. What a sweet moment, and the start to the best partnership I could imagine.

  8. altoids. Are they still curiously strong? I'm not testing that.

  9. no less than 5 forms of white-out. I may never lose all of my perfectionism, but perhaps I'm getting better.

  10. tapes for answering machines. Like the floppy disks, I'm not sure these will ever be useful again.

  11. slides. They carry images of my design projects from architecture school. On a related note, I found my acceptance letter into that program - evidence the slides must have been pretty decent at one time.

  12. a ski pass. Not my own, but belonging to my dear husband, Mr. Kenobi, from a family outing in 1989. How it got in my stuff is evidence that what's mine is his, and what's his is mine.

  13. business cards. Mostly, they were my own, with titles like "Marketing Director" and "West Coast Manager." It has me thinking about making up a title and cards for my current job- if only that description could fit on a little 2"x3" piece of card stock.

Wednesday, January 16, 2008

thirteen school thoughts

Our district is doing some research to understand what neighborhood parents would need in order to keep their kids in the public school system through graduation. While local elementary schools continue to improve and gain popularity, the high schools haven't overcome the stigma of "urban school problems."  So, I was asked by a friend of a friend to compile a list of my thoughts about local schools.   

It seems that many local parents who are involved and support their neighborhood school are opting to move into the suburbs or send their children into "chartered" waters instead of stick with the local public system.  Many believe that city schools are a failure, and parents who know the choices (and can afford to make them) are making moves to get their children a solid education.  It is safe to note, however, that suburban schools face their own challenges, as do charter and private schools.  In short, the public schools around here are trying to see if there are long-term solutions, not just band-aids, to make education better.

I'm not completely sure how I feel about all of this. I have many friends who homeschool, others who send their kids to private or charter options, a few in local schools, and even more who have moved to the suburbs. I hear the widespread opinion that city schools aren't teaching our children. However, when we moved here I looked at the numbers and started talking to parents and teachers, and appearances aren't always reality.

So, I've enlisted the help of Obi-1 and Obi-2 to think about school. We're years off from high school, but kindergarten is just around the corner. With their help, we put together a list of ideas about what schools should have, do, and be. I'm very curious to see the response of parents and educators who have far more insight on this topic. 

In your comments, please remember that I try to protect my family's identity & neighborhood on this blog. Thanks!

Question: What should we have in school?  (with MamaToo's thoughts in notes)
  1. Reading! (Literacy, languages, and learning by research are all important skills.  Though this blog is often guilty of typos, it's important that my children learn to read, speak, and write well.)

  2. Color & art projects (Yes - art, art, art!)

  3. Playing with friends (A place of safe, positive, diverse social interactions is important.)

  4. Telling stories (Hearing the stories of other students & teachers encourages learning, as well as creates memories and builds a positive teen culture.  Building listening skills encourages life-long learning.)

  5. Jumping & running (Absolutely - an active life is a healthy life!)

  6. Counting (Math skills spill into nearly every career and subject, and are critical pieces of education.)

  7. Singing songs & playing instruments (Again, yes - art, art, art - more than just colors!  Creative skills are problem solving skills!  While we're at it, how about dancing and acting, too?)

  8. Using a computer (More than just games!  A strong technology training equips children to be part of the culture and pace of our society.)

  9. Learning about animals and plants.  (Fresh out of the book Ralph S. Mouse, my boys are eager to have a classroom pet.  In the bigger picture, I will look for strong science curricula & teachers, as well as many opportunities for experiential learning.)

  10. Kindergarten in the morning, so we can have lunch with Mama (In a longer-range view, a balance of school & school work gives value to time with family.  This is important to me, and will factor into our school & activities choices.  Hours of homework after hours of school leaves little time for human interaction.)

  11. We can build things.  (I seem to have some kinesthetic learners on my hands!  I do think it will be important to see varied teaching & learning styles represented in classrooms, to stretch their learning.  Also, a variety of technical/skill classes available, in addition to strong academic subjects, will convince me a school is committed to preparing every child to use his/her gifts.)

  12. From MamaToo: this should go without saying, but kids better be able to use the bathroom, hang out in the library, and go up and down stairwells safely.  I'm pretty sure they can in our local schools, but I've heard horror stories of basic safety needs run awry by gangs or unruly kids.  I can't send my kids somewhere they aren't safe.

  13. Also from MamaToo: a diverse population.  We chose to live in an urban area, so I can't see sending my children to a school that doesn't have students of different economic, ethnic, political, or even religious backgrounds.  I think something more homogenous wouldn't represent the place we live and the people we love.  I'm not seeking out challenge, but I don't want to keep them from engaging diversity.  Obviously, that brings its own challenges, but those are part of real life in the real world.  It seems better to learn how to interact and succeed within diversity while you're still young.
p.s. I almost forgot - many people write lists on Thursdays, not all of them as heavy topics as school choices! :)  Be sure to visit them, and leave your link in comments if you're a TT-er! :)

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

thirteen things that save

I'm going to try to post a Thursday Thirteen list each week this year... no promises of perfection, but it's a fun way to challenge my creativity! There are hundreds of others who meet the challenge well, so check them out, too.

This week, I'm sharing tips that save.  Time, money, and sanity always seem to be at a premium for me this time of year, especially while we "recover" from a busy holiday season. Hopefully some of these are useful as "saving" ideas - or for a timely chuckle! :)
  1. Photo or artwork cards. Not sure what to do with that 190th crayon drawing or paint-stamped art project from preschool? Do you have a few photos from Christmas? Cut or trim them to card-size shapes, then label and paste to the front of inexpensive cards. You will have personalized cards to use as thank-you's or notes, and the recipients will get to enjoy a bit of your life and art.

  2. Set a budget, and use cash.  Figure out what you spend weekly (or want to spend weekly) on things like groceries, gas, etc.  Withdraw the cash for that amount, and spend what you have from each category.  This takes a while to get used to, but eventually really saves you from the end-of-the-month surprises on your bank or credit card statement.  It is also a sure-fire way to stick to a budget (once the money is gone, it's gone!)

  3. Shop online for gifts, books, clothing, etc.  There are purchase you make once in a while, like back to school, growth spurts, birthday presents, etc.  You can go to a store for those things, but how does $5 in shipping really compare to loading everyone into the car, parking, driving around town, and going in and out of stores to find what you're looking for? Retailers often have free or flat-rate shipping (and often free returns!), so take advantage of it and save yourself the trips, time, and cost. Plus, online shopping usually matches up to my "list," reducing impulse buys of those must-have sales on store shelves.

  4. Clean the bathroom while giving the kids a bath. This really only works if you have little kids who are comfortable playing in the tub. I imagine teenagers want their privacy, as do roommates. (If you don't have kids, imagine the challenge of being elbow-deep in cleaning supplies while the house gets eerily silent with mischief - yikes!) I fill the tub with bath bubbles and set the kids in with their little rubber toys. Then, I set to work on the toilet, sink, mirrors, etc., easily keeping my eyes on the Obi's while getting everything & everybody clean. Once the room is sparkly, I take the kiddos out of the tub and wrap them in cozy towels, then scrub the tub before taking my own shower.  Presto!

  5. Eat a big breakfast. There's more about saving money and eating well here, but remember that the cheapest meal to eat healthfully is breakfast. Walk past those boxes of cereal and granola bars and get some oatmeal from the bulk grocery section. Cook a big batch of scrambled eggs and drink lots of water in the morning. For less than a dollar, you can feed the entire family a breakfast that will keep them satisfied (and eating less snack-stuff) all morning.

  6. Use safe, non-toxic cleaning supplies. White vinegar, baking soda, castile or organic all-purpose soap, and microfibre cloths. There's not much you can't get really clean with these things, they're safe for the environment, and they cost much less than the chemical-laden products. Plus, if I use safe stuff like this, the kiddos can help. Bonus!

  7. Buy real fruit and veggies for snacks. It's so much less expensive, and far healthier, to eat an apple rather than an apple-flavored granola bar or fruit snack packages, and your metabolism will thank you for the carrot sticks you ate instead of the chips. Get the real thing, and thank yourself later.

  8. Rest time.  You think you don't have time for it.  I tell you, you don't have time to skip it! Make quiet and have everyone take a mid-day break.  Your body, mind, and spirit will have time to grow.

  9. Plan meals.  I used to think this was only for the super-organized.  Folks, I'm far from super-organized, but it saves me time & money (plus our health is far better) when I plan our menu a week at a time.  

  10. Shop once a week, or less, for groceries.  Set one day as your "grocery day."  Make a list (see above), check your pantry, and get it done in one swoop.  You'll save time, trips, and probably money as you avoid multiple hungry-shopping moments each week.

  11. Have people in your home.  You meant to do it last year, but the neighbors are still just over-the-fence faces, right?  Put it on your calendar - host somebody once a month at least (better if you get to once a week or so).  The important thing is, have somebody into your space on a regular basis.  Your house will stay a bit more kept up, and you'll let go of perfectionist notions after a while.  Your meal dollars and ingredients can stretch more than you know, and you'll build "others" into your budget easily.  Ideas to get started: lunch on a Sunday, dinner on a Tuesday, host a small group from church, or play group with a couple other parents. If you don't know your invitees very well, have more than one new face invited. Your house doesn't have to be perfect, your food can be take-out, but it's important to get people into your life - literally!

  12. Plan a vacation.  It happens frequently - we want to go somewhere, but another month (or year) goes by and we haven't set aside the time or money to do so.  Open a free savings account at nearly any bank, and set up an auto-payment into it every pay day.  In little time, you'll build the money needed for a vacation.  Start looking at the calendar and give yourself a window (say, "any time in August") so you can shop for the best travel deals for that time and be flexible with work needs.  Work within your budget and remember to set aside a bit for fun adventures or souvenir shopping.  Go someplace you haven't been, try camping this year, or visit those friends who moved away.  

  13. Start a prayer journal.  I've done this in the past, and am moving back into the habit.  Keep record of the things (specifics) you pray about.  When somebody asks you to pray, write it down here.  Look back through it periodically and you'll have plenty to praise Him for, and you'll remember those needs.  Then, rejoice in how your prayers are answered!  It's sadly easy to forget God's faithfulness, and it's also easy to lose perspective.  Perhaps He answered a prayer in a different way than you asked or expected, or perhaps it seems as if He's staying silent.  If you've written things down and reviewed it on occasion, you'll have something to encourage and inform your prayer life. 
May you save much and enjoy even more this year!  

blessings,
MamaToo

Thursday, December 6, 2007

thirteen things we're anticipating

It's a season of expectation and preparation.  We get to choose what we're expecting, though... so often, December has a way of sneaking up on me with obligations, higher expectations, and extra costs.  This year, we're trying to make it a bit different.  

We made a list in October - yes, around the time of this post - of experiences we wanted to have during advent.  Some were simple, some required scheduling.  Our idea was that we'd intentionally say "yes" to some things, and "no" to others.  

It has worked in some ways.  There's also the rush of new invitations and opportunities around this time of year.  A constant stream of potential stress gives us a chance to have grace with each other and ourselves! 

I was blessed with many traditions and good memories of Christmastime.  That is a gift in itself, and one worth sharing.  I'm also interested to know the traditions, stuff, and fun other people enjoy this time of year.  Here's a small sample of our practical list.  I've written in no particular order.  Please join the conversation and leave you own ideas in comments!
  1. Cut down our Christmas tree

  2. Attend the tree lighting ceremony and carols in the town square
  3. Bake cookies for the neighbors (with enough for us, too!)

  4. Host a potluck Christmas dinner with our small group

  5. Hang lights on the outside of our house 

  6. See the Christmas ships sail down the river

  7. Visit the Grotto to experience the beauty of that place and hear some wonderful music

  8. Load a huge library of Christmas music onto my iPod

  9. Make handmade gifts for loved ones

  10. Take the boys ice skating, and enjoy a hot chocolate at Nordstrom's cafe afterward

  11. Hang my grandparents' Santa Claus painting in our home

  12. Learn Silent Night on my guitar

  13. Take part in a candle-lit service on Christmas Eve
Not everyone is celebrating, nor excited, at this time of year, but many people write lists on Thursdays.  Visit them!  

blessings,
MamaToo

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

thirteen camping memories

... note: I forgot to publish this yesterday (Thursday). So, yes, I know it's not truly a Thursday Thirteen (even in Australia, where it's already moved onto the weekend!) Just pretend it is, or pretend you forgot to read yesterday, and enjoy the little list!

We went camping, and it was fantastic. I've decided that should be one of those things they require to get your parenting license. (What? You didn't have to get a license?) There are benefits of camping you simply cannot match in your home, like encouraging that friend who just watched her child pick something out of the dirt and put it in her mouth with a laid back, "hey, it's organic!" and then hearing her echo it to another squeamish mama later. That, my friends, is priceless. So are some other great memories of our weekend...


  1. S'mores. Simply put, there are few better reasons to go camping. My friend asked me if whole-wheat graham crackers make them a health food. "Only if you use my dark chocolate," I quipped.


  2. The only thing better than s'mores is plain roasted marshmallows, which I love. Perhaps it's the process as much as the treat, really. I love roasting them slowly, turning constantly so they're just barely golden and perfectly molten inside. Mr. Kenobi likes to start them on fire and eat the crunchy part... eeeeewww!


  3. "Airplanes! Look at all the airplanes!" My Obi-1, now nearly 4, was amazed by the bright lights above him on the first night. Oh, dear - we have an urban boy.
    "Those are stars," his daddy corrected.



  4. Counting the stars - after explaining they're not airplanes - is an amazing way to see my son connect with the bible story we read a few weeks ago. Genesis 15:5-6 tells a beautiful story about Abraham, and we memorized a related verse from Galatians. To see that story, the amazing largeness of creation, and the promises of God come together in my son's mind was beautiful.


  5. Hanging out around the campfire with other grownups... after everyone's kids were sleeping. Every bit of packing, organizing, cleaning, laundry, and too-thin-camping-mats was worth it to get to know these precious friends better.


  6. Coffee. Delivered hot & fresh in a French Press from friends next "door."


  7. Simplified housekeeping. Boiling water, biodegradable soap, four plates, four utensils, four cups, a pan, and some dish towels. Dishes were done after every meal, and took only a few minutes and little water. I am reminded of how wasteful our home life can be when I look at the little hands reaching for his fourth new cup of the day!


  8. Simplified housekeeping, part II. Sure, you can wear those shorts again today! What's three days in the same clothes?


  9. Swimming - er, wading - in the river. It was all of 60 degrees, so quite refreshing, if you will. The boys were warned sternly of the dangers of rivers:
    "You can only go to the river with Mama or Daddy. If you go by yourself, you could fall in and get water up your nose!"
    My friends' child is not nearly so cautious (she can swim!) and needed a more convincing warning:
    "If you go in without us, you could get swept down the river and never see Mama again!"
    Therapy with that s'more, anyone? :)


  10. Snakes (that I didn't see, thankfully!), weird cartoon-looking caterpillars (orange with "fake eyes" painted on their backs), and baboons hiding in the grass by our site (actually, that's how he said "bamboo," but who's getting picky on pronunciation?) Ahhh, nature. It's exactly the kind of stuff you need to get out of the city to see.


  11. Our first real hike - on foot for everyone. Both Obi's did great. We only went about 1 hour, and probably covered less than a mile, but it was a good introduction (read: everyone had fun) to hiking without carrying a boy in the backpack.


  12. Sleeping in the tent. Under the stars. With the breeze gently blowing through (or emphatically, as it did Saturday) and the whole Kenobi clan nestled into our sleeping bags.


  13. Shared meals in lawn chairs. New friends and stronger friendships emerged from our weekend, often borne out of pot-luck style meals in the shade of our campsite.

I've decided on a new business idea for my lists (I'll explain later). Make fun of me if you want, but things are ready for our next outing and the hardest part was finding our tent. Now that the weekend is behind us, we're looking forward to the next outing. Perhaps you'll join us!

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

tagged: eight things, plus five more

I spoke to my mom, back in South Dakota, today. They were enjoying the "pleasantly warm" and "comfortable" temperatures. The forecast for our two towns are approximately the same tomorrow: somewhere in the upper-90's. :)

On a seemingly unrelated note, a dear fellow writer, Proverbs 31, tagged me to write a list. It seems that this whole "tagged" business is both a compliment by the "tagger" and a kick-in-the-pants for me to write more. Keep the compliments flowing - I love compliments. I really, really, love compliments. Even sarcastic ones. But I must ask that you all, like my friend Proverbs 31, kick lightly, okay? I've been writing a lot lately - look here! (Yes, honestly, most were just finishing drafts, but still - it counts, right?)

Her list was about her faith, written with honesty and beautiful vulnerability. As I mentioned, however, t's hot here, so my brain is not geared toward writing especially beautiful or vulnerable posts. In honor of the brain-melting temperatures, I'm keeping things light.

So, here are eight reasons I love the hot weather of summer. For all of you rainy, cool-climate loving neighbors of mine, much love and sympathy (somewhere behind my giggles at your complaints!) Come over and
we can make ice cream. And don't worry, the clouds will return soon. They always do.

Okay, I'm cheating & doing a Thursday Thirteen rather than just a "Tagged 8" list. If you just wanted eight things, watch for the stop sign.

1. Sprinklers. As much as I hate wasting water, there is something really fun about jumping through the spray of an old-fashioned sprinkler, slowly getting wetter and wetter until your shorts are gripping your thighs as you run. Not pretty, but very fun.

2. Sun screen. I love the smell. Weird? Probably, but it makes me think of making castles on the beach while sand stuck to the Coppertone lotion on my legs and back. I also like writing letters or words on the boys' backs as we put on the sunscreen.

3. Boating. We live on a river (actually, 2), here and there are tons of boats. Unfortunately, we do not have one, but I have fond memories of boating and...

4. Water-skiing. I miss the tug of a ski-rope in my hands, the spray of the wake, the tension and balance of cutting back and forth behind the boat. Water skiing holds a bit of magic in my family; once upon a time, a young guy didn't believe his friend's claim that a girl in town could ski so well she'd start out of the water backwards & barefoot. She could, and she proved it, and he was so impressed he asked her out on a date. A bit later, they married, and then had me... and my brother... and my other brother... and she still water skis today (maybe only a little bit more cautious!) My mom taught us all to ski, while dad drove the boat. She even taught Mr. Kenobi to ski - way back when he was just that cute college "friend" of her daughter's. Someday we will get to go boating again, and MamaToo will show her boys how to water ski!

5. Salads. I love fruit & veggies, and summer brings out the freshest produce. When I was a kid, we had an enormous garden, and I had to help with all of the hard work of planting, weeding, tending, watering, weeding, etc. before harvest. You'd think I would have grown-up to love gardening, but no! I grew up to love shopping at farmers' markets. :)

6. Ice Cream. Good thing I like salads, eh? Ice cream is a staple in the summer... somewhere between dinner and breakfast, Mr. Kenobi & I enjoy a heaping bowl of Breyer's. Believe it or not, I love vanilla best. Chocolate, strawberry, mint chocolate-chip, or coffee are other favorites. (Someday, I must share a funny story about the question of favorite ice cream flavors. It involves my friend
Maria and a church visit, but that's the only hint for now.)

7. Sunglasses. It is my little way of feeling like a celebrity. My boys wear theirs inside as much as outside, and it makes me giggle to walk through the grocery aisles as if we're hiding our identities from the paparazzi.

8. Air conditioning. We don't have it in the house, but I sure love the stores that do. Not that I really need an excuse to love shopping...


IF YOU ONLY WANTED TO KNOW EIGHT THINGS, STOP HERE. :)

9. Skirts. True, I could wear them anytime, but there's something about hot days of sumer that makes me want to pull out a favorite linen skirt and tank top and pull my longish (getting longer!) hair up into a ballerina-style bun. And, as long as we're talking what-not-to-wear...

10. Flip-flops. Again, probably could wear these all the time (who am I kidding? I do wear them all the time!), but there is no better thing to keep your tootsies off the hot pavement while strolling around the block.

11. Sitting in my basement and playing with the boys. Our playroom is in our basement. Yes, it is a definitely luxury to have a playroom. And a basement. But normally I feel a little guilty if we hang out down there too long, like I should be getting them outside. In the hot days, however, I'm really happy to just hang out and build train tracks or play instruments (like the drums!) with the kiddos.

12. Cool nights. Just when the house is getting too stuffy to handle any more, evening hits and the temperatures begin to drop. Usually, by the boy's bedtime, we can throw open windows, put fans in front of the screens, and let the night air in. I love that feeling of fresh, whoooshing air breezing through the house.

13. Slowing down. Some people have to keep up their hectic daily pace or work & activity, with no difference between February and July. I know it's a luxury to have the freedom to re-vamp my schedule and just hang out when the weather gets hot. I appreciate it. Hot weather calls for a slower pace, sipping cold water, and deciding that finding the shady spot for a picnic or filling up the kiddie-pool is your highest priority of the day.

Thanks, Proverbs 31, for some good reading & an excuse to write again today. Thanks, too, for all of the Thirteeners out there with lists of your own. Enjoy the heat! And now, since I completely tossed most of the rules, here's one more twist: if you've read this, and think you're up for the challenge, write your own list and link it in my comments. :)

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

thirteen ways Mr. Kenobi is an amazing dad

It's been a while since I wrote about my best friend, my love, and my partner in this life's adventure, Mr. Kenobi. He truly is amazing. Yeah, not in that lalalala yada yada way that some women mush about their husbands. Better. Prince Charming, watch out. :)

This Sunday will mark the third year I've celebrated Mr. Kenobi as a father. It is a special holiday, and I hope the boys & I can truly give him the honor and love he deserves. To celebrate this week's Thursday Thirteen, I'm giving you a little glimpse into moments of Mr. Kenobi as "Daddy." If you don't like sappy, sentimental love notes, you might want to just scoot along. However, I hope you'll stick around to help me celebrate this man and father.

1. Bed Time. This time of day is Daddy's domain in our house, and has been pretty much since each boy was finished nursing, and maybe even earlier. I confess - I love leaving the baby monitor on while he goes through the bedtime routine with the boys, hearing him read stories, "taco tuck" each boy into his blankets, tell them he loves them, pray with and for them, sing sweet hymns and songs as they fall asleep. If one or both is struggling to fall asleep, it is Mr. Kenobi who goes back & forth to the room, reminding them to stay quiet or settle back into covers. I know this time is a gift & welcome break for me, but it is also a gift to the boys to have some exclusive Daddy time in their last moments of the day.

2. Zeppoli Day. The last Saturday of the month is Zeppoli Day at our local Italian cafe. I'm not a huge fan of donuts, but I do enjoy these little melt-in-your-mouth Italian treats. Even more, I enjoy the way Mr. Kenobi builds excitement with the boys for our family walk and treats.

3. Lattes. If he ever wants to change careers and leave the demanding and exciting world of geotechnical engineering, he'd make an amazing barista. Or is it baristo? Whatever. He makes a fantastic latte for me, and "fuzzy milks" for the boys. What a perfect treat to start a weekend morning.

4. Quiet Mornings. I'm a sleep-in type of girl, but Mr. Kenobi works hard, and early. The boys tend to sleep in, too, as long as the house is pretty quiet. I love that he is so careful to let us all sleep, and if a sleepy boy gets out of bed too early, he'll bring him into our bed for a little extra sleep.

5. Family Bed. I wrote about it here, just to recognize the dilemma of sleep. Mr. Kenobi was the first champion of family sleep in our house, and it was a sweet way to spend those baby years of up/down/up/down nights with each boy. And, in case you're wondering... yes, they both happily sleep in their own bed, in their own room.

6. Adventures. Mr. Kenobi is an outdoors sort of guy, but I'd probably be happy to stay in most of the time. Fortunately, he gets us all out on adventures by encouraging family walks, bike rides, hikes, and play.

7. Wrestling. With the boys, of course! I think there must be something about dads & sons that just requires wrestling.

8. Sports. We're starting to enter that season (probably a long one) where the boys like playing sports. Even though Mr. Kenobi was/is a very good, highly competitive athlete, I appreciate his attitude toward sports with his boys. It's fun to see him feeding tennis balls to little Obi-1's racquet, or pitching baseballs in the front yard, all the while teaching without demanding their performance. If this laid-back attitude continues, it will be fun to see what our boys enjoy doing, and great to know their father supports them in their interests.

9. It's a partnership. I'm so blessed to be home with my children. I believe this, really, even on those days that prompt me to think about updating my resume! :) Fortunately, I don't have to give up the "partnership" in parenting that we had once dreamed about. Mr. Kenobi is teaching his boys what it looks like to be a man of balance, amidst many responsibilities.

10. He dates their Mama. I might not have known how critically important it is to keep dating my children's father, if he didn't make it such a priority. He arranges Grandma's time here, confirming with her every week. He often thinks up where we'll go. He compliments me & showers me with attention. He tells his employees, "no phone calls after 4:30," so he can be sure to leave the office in time to go on our dates. I'm a lucky girl, and our boys are lucky to see that their parents still want to date each other.

11. He leads them in worship. Last week, I looked over to see Mr. Kenobi prompting each line of the worship songs to Obi-1, in the pew beside me. It was pure joy to see my child invited, and able, to be part of our community. Just as a worship leader prompts the congregation to lift our voices together, he's leading our children to know Who and why we worship.

12. He shaves. The boys and I aren't fans of kissing scratchy faces. Mr. Kenobi likes the look & lower-maintenance of a beard, but he shaves for us. Awwww, how sweet!

13. Husband-coached childbirth. Suffice it to say, our boys wouldn't have been born the way they were, nor would I have entered these first years motherhood with any confidence at all, if not for the support of Mr. Kenobi. Many times since that first moment of labor, I've felt like I could not cope with the pain, confusion, fear, or frustration of a situation. He has gently helped me through it each time, and often I'm amazed at how much I rely on him for support. I couldn't do this alone, and I wouldn't want to. I never doubt that our boys are better off because of his beliefs, his commitment, and his willingness to pull more than his share when needed.

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

thirteen things we hear when we make quiet

Happy Thursday! (This is especially true for my little Australian friends... the rest of you are celebrating early). After some time away from the computer, I'm feeling much more refreshed and ready to tackle a list. In order to read it, though, you'll have to enjoy a little story about my beloved boys and our adventures.

Obi-1 was struggling to settle down for a little afternoon nap today. I sang a few songs and we did some deep breathing, but I could tell his mind was still racing. So, I taught him how to "Make Quiet." In case you're unfamiliar, Making Quiet is different than Being Quiet. Being quiet is just trying not to make any noise - what I like to call an "anti-" activity: anti-noise, anti-interruption, anti-fidgety. It's very hard for little boys, and actually very hard for most of us, whose beings aren't very quiet.

Making Quiet, on the other hand, is a great skill & quiet easy to learn! In a nutshell, here's how you Make Quiet: close your eyes. Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth, as deeply and slowly and quietly as you can. And then... Listen. Listen to every sound, and try to figure out what you're hearing. The more (and longer) you Make Quiet, the more you'll hear. This list is thirteen things we heard when we were Making Quiet...
  1. The garbage truck outside in front of our house
  2. Glass being dumped into the recycling section of the garbage truck
  3. The neighbors' dog whining
  4. A neighbor mowing the yard two houses away
  5. A squirrel running across our roof
  6. An airplane flying high overhead
  7. The hum of my computer
  8. Obi-2 snoring
  9. Cars on the street a block behind us, slowing down for the nearby Italian cafe and shops
  10. My tummy rumbling (note to self: must eat lunch!)
  11. The mail dropping into our mail slot by the front door
  12. The washing machine spinning out the freshly laundered sheets
  13. A neighbor child riding his bicycle on the sidewalk & laughing out loud

By the end of our time together Making Quiet, I felt more rested, and Obi-1 was asleep. It was a good way to spend a bit of a lazy afternoon.

p.s. lots of people write interesting Thursday Thirteen lists. You can find them here...

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

thirteen reasons I love my mom

While this list doesn't nearly cover all of the reasons I love her, I thought it fitting to honor Mom with a short recap of why I am so grateful to be her daughter.

  1. She's coming to visit me... from far, far away - like 3-plane-connections-and-hours-of-flights-&-transfers far away - this week!

  2. She is gorgeous - a true natural beautiful, and the vanity in me hopes I got some of those genes. :)

  3. She's part of the "right-wing conspiracy," so to speak. I love her for it, even when she thinks I'm falling off the "left coast" of America. She has intelligence and opinions, and she's not afraid to share them.

  4. She exercises her faith. I love how she continues to grow spiritually. She loves a loving God, serves him and his people, and walks with a practical attitude and humble heart. Her faith makes a difference now and for eternity.

  5. She is a hard worker. She owns her own business (a ballet school). She has done all of the teaching, choreography, direction, production, costuming, travel, marketing, and everything else that goes into its success for 30 years. I admire all of the time and energy she's put into training and working to be a serious pro in her field, and a pioneer in a little old Midwest town, USA.

  6. She is a really hard worker. She works a second job as a Realtor, and has achieved amazing success with lots of advanced training in that field.

  7. She can make anything, and it will be delicious.

  8. She can clean and decorate anything, and it will be beautiful.

  9. She can shop the socks off anyone. The woman knows how to conquer a mall, and make it fun.

  10. She is amazingly creative, generous, and loves children. The combination is magical.

  11. She is physically fit and incredibly self-disciplined... Triathlons. Skiing. Dancing. If she hasn't done it, she'll probably try it. My mother does not stop moving.

  12. She has high expectations for her children. I don't think anyone believes in me more, is willing to sacrifice to help me achieve, and knows her child's true potential. There is a special blessing in having somebody believe in you... just ask me or my brothers.

  13. She loves her grandchildren, and is the dearest "Nani" they could ever want.

Wednesday, May 9, 2007

thirteen surprises about motherhood

I'm slowly getting used to the idea that I'm part of that group of folks who are honored by a special day each year. Mothers' Day has always been a special time for me; it was the weekend of my mom's ballet school spring concert. This year, they will celebrate 56 years of such performances in my little hometown.

I remember my mom and my grandmothers, (both lived nearby) receiving big hanging baskets of flowers from their kids for Mother's Day. As the summer progressed, the baskets would bloom and flourish in their care; those women were skilled and nurturing: with plants, as well as their children and grandchildren.

This week, I'm grateful for motherhood. Some moments (days, seasons...) are harder than others. However, this is a calling that I love, and it is an honor I hardly comprehend. Here are thirteen things (just a smidgen of the real list) that have surprised me about being a Mama.


  1. I didn't know how amazingly gifted Mr. Kenobi is when it comes to all things fatherly. I didn't realize how much I would love parenting with him.

  2. I didn't know how much pain or fear I could endure, nor how joyfully empowered I could feel.

  3. I didn't know how much I would like these little people. My boys are not just loveable, but they're actually quite interesting people, with fun senses of humor, and generally enjoyable personalities. They have interests and skills and unique gifts, and I find that even though they're quite different from me, it is a gift to see them up-close in so many ways, and I like spending my time with them.

  4. I didn't know how little patience I had, nor how much God would supply patience beyond my needs.

  5. I didn't know the subtle differences in toddler dialect. I can hear & translate words that sound like swearing to outsiders, because I realize he's asking for a (tr)uck, has lost his (st)ick, or doesn't want (st)itches on his head.

  6. I didn't know how strongly I felt about so many issues, and I didn't know how greatly I could love people whose views are completely different than mine.

  7. I didn't know how much time is spent on things totally unrelated to eating bon-bons. :) I thought I'd have lots of time "when I am home with the kids" to fill in the blank here with any hobby or interest or amount of sleep...

  8. I didn't know how encouraging it would be to hear the wisdom of women who've struggled and rejoiced in ways I cannot imagine

  9. I didn't know how much a head injury bleeds.

  10. I didn't know how big a gift (and challenge) it would be to share Jesus with somebody who can receive true love, ask real questions, and has ample opportunity to watch how I live out my own faith.

  11. I didn't know that the box, not its contents, is the true gift for most young children.

  12. I didn't know how much I would enjoy the challenge of managing budgets, feeding a family, or refereeing games. I was not a cook, not a homemaker, not skilled at any of these things before motherhood. Now it's part of the job description, and I enjoy it!

  13. I didn't know how very, very, very right my mother nearly always was. And Is! I didn't know how much I would think of her and realize she is a complete rock-star in motherhood. Thanks, Mom. I love you! :)

p.s. there are lots of people who write interesting TT lists...

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

recipes and social justice

I was so encouraged to see another post related to my recent note on hunger awareness week. Hunger is a problem that, in my opinion, goes further than simply having nothing to eat. We all could benefit from thinking about nourishing, not just ingesting, our food choices.

So thanks, Llama Mama, for your beautiful lived-out faith and real solutions! What a blessing to hear from other people who find and share practical ways to eat healthy on a very limited budget. It's an excellent topic of honest discussion, and I thought a Thursday Thirteen list would be a good way to start contributing.

So, in honor of everyone living (by choice or need) on limited grocery funds, here are thirteen recipes and tips to help keep balance in your nutrition and your checkbook.
  1. Drink Water. I know, I know... this isn't a recipe. However, it really is the easiest way to stay within a limited budget. Other beverages can really add $$ to your grocery bill, often without much nutrition.

  2. Homemade Bread. This is the easiest way to know what's in your food. I know making bread sounds time-consuming, but it's really not a lot of hands-on time and this recipe makes enough for 2 large, nutritious loaves. Plus, fresh bread is delicious! Once the initial pantry items (whole wheat flour, white flour, yeast, buttermilk, honey) are on hand, it's quite cheap per-loaf.

  3. Simple Baked Chicken. Purchase the largest whole chicken you can find. I sometimes bake two, for extra leftovers (think soups, casseroles, enchilladas, pot pie, and #5 & #6 & #7). Select non-antibiotic, non-hormone induced, free range if you can, because it's healthier. Watch for sales, or look at Trader Joes or Costco. Slightly grease a pan, sprinkle on a bit of salt and pepper, and bake it in a 350-degree (F) oven for 1 1/2 - 2 hours, or until juices run clear.

  4. Smoothies. Very easy and satisfying snack or breakfast (or whenever?)... Combine plain yogurt, frozen berries (or fresh, if you have 'em), bananas, and - (if you like it a bit more liquid & have it on hand) - a bit of juice. Blend together. aaaahhhhh...... :)

  5. Chicken Salad with Apples & Raisins. Use the leftovers of #3 for a light dinner or great lunch. A little chicken goes a long way, and the added veggies & fruits make it a great meal all by itself. We enjoy this on pitas or whole wheat bread, or if you're low-carbing it, it's great by itself or with wheat crackers.

  6. Homemade Chicken Stock. Waste not, want not! After cleaning all of that meat from the baked chicken (#1), throw the bones in a large pot of water with a tsp of vinegar. Bring it to a boil, and then let it simmer (skimming the water ever so often) for a day. Strain it out, and you'll have a very nutrient-rich, delicious stock to use in lots of other recipes. It also keeps for months in a freezer.

  7. Lentils-n-Rice. This is an easy slow-cooker or one-dish meal. Rich in fiber & protein by itself! We just add a little sprinkle of cheese, raw veggies or fruit on the side (or a small salad), and viola!

  8. Pancakes. Add 1 cup of frozen blueberries when putting these on the griddle, and you really do have a good (though carb-rich) meal. The whole wheat option makes them even more filling. Think outside the box: pancakes were my favorite dinner when I was a kid!

  9. Potato Soup. The recipe makes enough for a small army! Freeze leftovers or make it with friends!

  10. Oatmeal. One of the best ways to start your day, and for around $0.50 a lb in most bulk sections of the grocery store, you can hardly beat it. Add blueberries (from that bag of frozen ones you bought for the pancakes & smoothies!), or raisins, and a bit of honey for sweetness.

  11. Cook together. Join somebody else to buy, prep, and cook a couple large meals or soups, then split the portions up to take home. You get the added bonus of time together, plus cost advantages (per serving) of buying in bulk.

  12. Fruit. In my original post on hunger, I was discouraged (or maybe just annoyed) by how he gave up a few bananas to fit into the foodstamp budget. I recognized the frustration of how fruit can be expensive, but it's worth it. Check the frozen isle - frequently these are affordable. Also, think fresh=local. Fruit's often as affordable as a package of snacks, and better all-around. Example: a bag of apples is relatively cheap, and if you slice 'em up thinly, it will supply enough snacks for a week.

  13. Buy Bulk. What you're getting in the bulk section: whole products and ingredients, in exactly the amount you need/want. What you're not getting: packaging, additives, and marketing. Good trade. Herbs, spices, grains, granolas, teas, dried fruits, flours... you'd be amazed at the selection and prices of buying bulk! As I looked at many of my recipes - if you buy some of those things n packages, it can really get expensive! You may have to ask around, but you can probably find bulk foods section in town. (Not to be confused with buying bulk, as in Costco, which is also useful)

So hopefully I have something of value in there. I've tried to give some new recipes in this and also floated some realistic ideas.

Grace,

MamaToo

p.s. there are lots of people who write interesting TT lists...

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

thursday thirteen blogroll

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The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things. Trackbacks, pings, comment links accepted!



thirteen odd questions

I'm feisty this week... and early on my Thursday Thirteen list!
Sorry... just a little too much time with sick kiddos and/or too little sleep and/or cloudy days. Whatever the reason, I'm dripping sarcasm from my pores. For this week's TT, I'm listing things that are odd, maybe even rude (?), or maybe funny things to ask me. Yes, there's a little trend here. Please know I'm giggling at most of them. :)

1. Did you mean to get pregnant? (I was asked this during each pregnancy... geesh)

2. Were you trying to have your children so close together?

3. When are you going to have another baby?

4. Don't you wish you had girls? (a.k.a. Are you going to try to have a girl?)

5. You're done having kids, right?

6. What do you do all day? (usually following some question about my job, or when they're told I stay home with the boys)

7. What do ya' mean you don't let you kids eat that? (usually followed by, "but they like it!")

8. What do ya' mean you don't let your kids play with that? (usually followed by, "but they like it!")

9. What do ya' mean you don't let your kids watch that? (usually followed by, "but they like it!")

10. Are you seriously consider homeschooling? (usually followed by, Are you crazy?)

11. Why did you have to move there? (a.k.a. "Why can't you move here?")

12. Don't you need to check with your husband?

13. Is that a personal thing to ask?

Thursday, April 19, 2007

thirteen ways to say happy birthday

I've been thinking a lot about birthdays this week, in honor of Obi-2. He's been really excited about his step into "big boy" life. I've also been thinking about how diverse our universities' student populations are. There are many people and families around the world affected by the V-Tech tragedy. Not only as a nation, but as a world, we pray for our young people to have safe and open education. So, it was a challenge to think of a 6th TT that would reflect some of these thoughts.
Here are thirteen ways to say Happy Birthday to somebody you love...

  1. Happy Birthday :)

  2. Cumpleaños felices (Spanish)

  3. お誕生日おめでとう(Japanese)

  4. Glücklicher Geburtstag (German)

  5. Gelukkige Verjaardag (Dutch)

  6. С днем рождения (Russian)

  7. 幸福的生日(Chinese)

  8. Joyeux Anniversaire (French)

  9. Compleanno felice (Italian)

  10. Feliz aniversário (Portugese)

  11. Glad Fødselsdag (Norwegian)

  12. 축 생일(Korean)

  13. Appy Birstay (Obi-2)

Thanks to http://ets.freetranslation.com/ and http://dictionary.reference.com/translate/index.html for help translating!

The purpose of the Thursday Thirteen meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun!

Monday, April 9, 2007

thirteen ways to be community


Thirteen Things about MamaToo


I haven't met anyone who doesn't long for, or find joy in, good community. So often I find myself (and others) musing, "I wish people were more connected now-a-days."

Many of us want to be part something bigger than our own needs, households, and workplaces. We might know of people or places that appear to have real, organic community. While those images may be somewhat true, I suspect we are all far more responsible for the state of our community than where we are or who we know.

My question is this: If we can't control how others respond, do we still want community? (And what if it means investing a lot of our own effort, talent, and time? What if the end result might be really wierd and messy? What if we end up moving away from the people and places we love, and have to start all over?)

What does it take for you to be community? Here are thirteen of my ideas, and I'd enjoy hearing more...
  1. Listen. Pick up the phone and let somebody hear your voice. If you're stuck for a topic of conversation, ask an open-ended question about them.


  2. Cook. Food is often given after births and deaths, but we all need to eat in the meantime. I keep a few extra supplies in the pantry for an easy, impromtu meal. When somebody is having a tough day or needs a little break, take them a meal.


  3. Celebrate. Remember a birthday or anniversary or other special date. Note: I'm not suggestion giving gifts for everything, but call or email or send a card or pick a dandelion and show up at their door. A friend of mine calls and plays the Beatle's "Today is Your Birthday" on full volume. It's nice to be remembered and celebrated.


  4. Get out. Find an excuse to go for a walk with somebody, or try a new place for coffee or dessert. Get face-to-face and make eye-contact.


  5. Compete. Start a competition (friendly) over something. Here's a fun one a friend & I did recently...


  6. Go. Show up at another person's home - without planning 2 weeks in advance.


  7. Invite. Have somebody over - today. Quit waiting until you clean the house and your emotions are under control and your children are well-behaved. Focus on your guest, and choose to forget protecting your image or your ego. Show somebody else that you value real people - imperfections and all - by your example.


  8. Commit. Find a weekly book study, prayer meeting, exercise class, or hobby that gets you together with the same few people every week. Put it on your calendar and honor the time it takes to build relationships.


  9. Get traditional. Take cookies to the new neighbors, and include a note with your name, address, phone number and email. If you don't bake, support the Girl Scouts or Keebler Elves. If you don't have new neighbors, knock within 2 doors of your own.


  10. Forgive. Community is a work in progress, so expect some injuries along the way. Choose to forgive and move on.


  11. Specify. When somebody asks what they can do, know what you're willing to turn over. Maybe it's babysitting your child, or picking up something for you at the store, or coming over to fold laundry, or signing up for a triathalon with you.


  12. Specify again. When you offer help, mention a couple specific things that you're good at, and give a time frame that will work with your schedule. This gives the recipient something real to choose, and shows you're serious about giving of yourself.


  13. Persist. Community is built like a pyramid - one step at a time, with a lot of labor along the way - and with beautiful, enduring and amazing results.


The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well!


Thursday, April 5, 2007

thirteen places to visit

Most of our family vacations are centered around visiting somebody - generally my parents, who are half a country away from us. Even our mini-vacations are often to visit friends.

We love these trips, and we love the people we see. However, sometimes we fantasize about a vacation where we aren't visiting loved ones - where it's just an adventure for us all.

I was thinking about this recently, and it occurred to me that we have more friends and family than we tend to visit regularly. It would be possible to combine a really wonderful adventure and visit friends and family. Here are thirteen of my possibile destinations with familiar accomodations...
  1. Melba, Australia (my dear friends just moved back here)
  2. Greece (my aunt has a home in a coastal village)
  3. Austria (my aunt has recently moved back here)
  4. Colorado Springs, Colorado (Obi-1's godparents and our dear friends)
  5. western coast of Mexico (Mr. Kenobi's uncle has a new house)
  6. Moorega, Germany (dear friends of mine)
  7. Phoenix, Arizona (a wonderful aunt lives here)
  8. Charlotte, North Carolina (a favorite friend and her wonderful husband)
  9. Venice, Florida (my cousins have a home on the beach)
  10. Honolulu, Hawaii (this might be a stretch, but our old neighbors did say "come visit us!")
  11. Capetown, South Africa (Mr. Kenobi's best friend's home)
  12. Bozeman, Montana (our old stompin' ground, and where Uncle J is finishing up school)
  13. Black Hills, South Dakota (okay, I admit it, we do love visiting my folks at their wonderful cabin!)

Wow... that's an easy list and amazing how many more came to mind! I think we better start packing.

have a great thursday!!

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

thirteen items for the baby book

I know a lot of mothers (especially the really really good ones) who note each of their children's new words, activities, and developments in cute little baby books. Often these books are decorated with creatively cut and placed pictures, stickers, and really are complete works of art. My boys do not have these books, nor the creative mama that is neccessary to make such keepsakes.

Okay, technically, Obi-1 has a book, and I was decent at filling in blanks for about 1 year. We moved here last summer, and it has not been unpacked. Obi-2 has an adorable book with little animals on the cover. Inside, I think I've inscribed his name and date of birth. There is no record of him doing or saying anything.

There are things I'd like to remember about my children's first years. Without a book, it's unlikely my brain will keep all of theses things around for long. However, as you know - I've started a blog!

So, here are Thirteen Things I Want to Remember about this season:

1. Obi-2 (almost 2) cannot enunciate the sound "tr". He uses an "f" sound instead. He loves trucks. He sees them everywhere, especially "dum trucks." Say it out loud, and laugh with me...

2. Obi-1 has taken to calling me "Babe." (He hears Mr. Kenobi say it, I think.) For example, here's a recent conversation:

Me: "Obi-1, get your shoes on so we can leave."

Obi-1: "Okay, BABE."

3. The boys are do not get candy... it's my rule, but they help enforce it. Obi-1 sees treats and asks me, "Mama, is that yucky for me?"

4. Obi-1 loves combing paint colors to make other colors (i.e. red + yellow = orange).

5. Obi-2 has figured out that play-doh colors mix together to make a "Big Mess."

6. Obi-1 loves to build things, like large lego towers and intricate train tracks.

7. Obi-2 loves to knock things down, especially large lego towers and intricate train tracks.

8. I am the only one in the family afraid of heights. Obi-2 will climb nearly anything and jump off most things.

9. Obi-1 is a bit more cautious when climbing; he checks to make sure I'm not watching.

10. Both boys recently started asking Mama for a baby. (Thanks, Grandma...)

11. Everything is more fun when you call it an Adventure! We have recently gone on "park adventures," "museum adventures,"cookie adventures," "a Seattle adventure," and even "naptime adventures."

12. Three-year-old prayers run together in sweetness: "Thank-you-God-for-this-day-and-the-food-and-Mama-and-Daddy-and-(Obi-2)-and-the-friends-and-Amen." 2-year old prayers are sweet, too, and sound something like this: "psss pssh pssssh pss pssh psshh Amen."

13. I have no idea why, but there is a particular phrase that started with Obi-1 and his best friend a year ago. It remains the most hilarious phrase in our household, and seems to never lose its punch-line effect:

"Jesus loves... PAPER!"

Thursday, March 22, 2007

thirteen reasons I'm proud of Mr. Kenobi

For anyone who isn't sure, Mr. Kenobi is my husband. Very cool and wonderful guy that he is, I decided to introduce him to the blogosphere with this week's "Thursday Thirteen." Here are thirteen reasons (out of milions) that I'm proud of Mr. Kenobi.
  1. He's an amazingly hard-worker, willing to lead his office by example.
  2. He gets up in the middle of the night to take care of our boys' needs, often without waking me.
  3. He's interested in nutrition and health, and so gets information and supports me when i'm trying new foods out on the dinner table, even if it doesn't contain meat.
  4. He's adventurous, but willing to get educated and consider a risk before jumping in (and taking his family along with him)
  5. He's a terrific skiier, amazing tennis player, and patient teacher of both.
  6. He can put everyone around him at ease.
  7. He understands that God is really big and incredibly good, so he pushes me to stretched faith all the time.
  8. He supports our family with his income, and never complains about the pressure of that responsibility.
  9. He's very smart, and yet willing to share his interests with me - even when the it's Geology of ancient North America or rules of NCAA tournaments, and even when I'm not very gracious about listening.
  10. He prays for his employees and cares deeply about their lives.
  11. He loves his parents and brothers, and he chooses to forgive more quickly than react.
  12. He jumps right into his "daddy" role with excitement and energy, even after a long day or week at work.
  13. He keeps making dates fun, even after 10 years.